How to Talk About Extras (Without Being Awkward)

The conversation about extras is the part of a sensual massage visit that first-timers approach with the most anxiety. The mental script runs through scenarios. What if she's offended, what if I say it wrong, what if I freeze up, what if she says no, what if she says yes and I don't know what to do next. By the time the actual moment arrives the punter has rehearsed enough versions of it to make any natural conversation impossible.

The reality is that this conversation is one of the easiest parts of the visit if you let her run it. She's done it thousands of times. She's developed a script that handles most punters. Your job is to follow her cues, answer plainly when asked, and accept what's offered without making it into more than it is.

How the conversation actually flows

The standard sequence at most Australian parlours:

You arrive at reception. Door fee paid. Session length agreed. Worker chosen or assigned. You don't discuss extras here. The receptionist isn't your contact. She's the gatekeeper. Bringing up extras at reception marks you immediately as inexperienced.

You enter the room. She greets you, points to the shower (or the table). You shower if offered, you undress, you lie down. She returns, the massage begins.

The first 15-30 minutes are the actual massage. Back, shoulders, arms, legs. Face down. She's working through her routine, you're letting her work.

She flips you over. This is the inflection point. Once you're face-up and she's continuing the massage on your front, the extras conversation becomes natural.

She asks the question. The phrasing varies but the meaning is clear:

• "Anything else you want?"
• "What are you in the mood for tonight?"
• "How would you like the session to go from here?"
• "What kind of finish would you like?"

That's your cue. You answer.

What to actually say

Plain English in short, clean sentences. Examples:

For a hand finish:

"I'd like a hand finish."

For a body slide:

"Can we add a body slide?"

For full service (where offered):

"What's your full service rate?"

For a Spanish finish:

"Could we do a Spanish finish?"

For combining things:

"I'd like a body slide with a hand finish at the end."

If you don't know what to ask for:

"What are my options?"

If you want to keep things simple:

"Just the massage and a hand finish."

What you don't need:

• Forum slang. "I'd like the FBSM with BS finish please" comes across as performative. Plain English works better.
• Long explanations. "I was thinking maybe if it's not too much trouble we could..." She's asked you a question. Answer it.
• Charming framing. "You're so beautiful, I'd love to..." Skip the preamble. Get to the request.
• Apologies for asking. "Sorry to ask but..." You're not doing anything wrong by answering her question.

After she answers

She quotes a price or names what's available. Three response options:

Accept: "Yes, that works." Hand her the cash now (or at the end, depending on her preference). The session continues with the added service.

Decline an option: "Just the hand finish, thanks." She'll proceed accordingly.

Decline everything: "Actually, just the regular session is fine." This is a totally normal answer. Many punters get just the basic session without extras and that's OK.

What if she says no

Some scenarios where the answer is no:

She doesn't offer that specific service. "I don't do full service" is an answer she gives plainly. Accept it. Don't ask why, don't push. Move on with what's available.

She doesn't offer extras to first-time punters. Some women have a policy of basic session only on first visits. Establishes trust, sees who you are, then the menu opens up next time.

It's not in her shift today. Some women rotate which services they offer based on the day, how busy they are, how they're feeling. "Not today" is a complete sentence.

She has limits you didn't know about. Every woman has services she won't offer regardless. Don't try to negotiate around her stated boundaries.

The right reaction to "no" is graceful acceptance. "No worries, the regular session is great" or just "okay" is sufficient. Don't:

• Ask "why not?"
• Suggest you'd "make it worth her while"
• Sulk visibly
• Try to renegotiate
• Hold it against her in the rest of the session

Negotiating price

You don't.

This is the rule that consistently sinks first-timers. The instinct to bargain, "what about $80 instead of $100?", is wrong here. The price is the price.

Why this is the rule:

It's not a market stall. The pricing reflects her time, her work, her practice. It's not a negotiating opening position.

It signals you don't understand the dynamic. Regulars accept her stated price or politely decline. Trying to negotiate marks you as someone who's misread the situation.

It changes the energy of the session. Even if she accepts the lower price, the rest of the session is now marked by the negotiation. The warmth gets lower. The effort follows.

It can get you ended. Some women will end the session if a punter starts haggling about extras. They've learned that someone who haggles is someone who'll keep pushing.

The right response to her stated price is "yes" or "no, thanks." Anything in between is a problem.

Mid-session escalation

What if you didn't agree to extras at the start but want to add something mid-session?

Possible. Awkward but possible.

The mechanics:

Wait for a natural pause. Don't interrupt the massage rhythm.

Ask quietly. "Could we add a body slide if there's time?" or "What's your hand finish rate?"

Agree the price. Same rules: accept her quote or decline.

Pay before the new service starts. Cash to her, in the room, before the new service.

What works:

• Adding a finish you didn't book initially. ("I'd like a hand finish at the end" is fine, normal request.)
• Adding body slide to a regular session. ("Could we do a body slide for the last 20 minutes?")
• Asking about her premium offerings if you're enjoying the session. ("What's your full service rate?")

What doesn't work:

• Asking for FS mid-session if she's already doing a regular session and hasn't suggested it. ("Hey, what about full service now?") Bad timing, comes across as escalating pressure.
• Trying to renegotiate what was already agreed. ("Actually I think the body slide should be cheaper.")
• Demanding services that weren't on her menu. ("I want this thing she didn't offer.")

When the conversation goes wrong

A few common failure modes and how to recover:

You blanked when she asked. "What are you in the mood for tonight?" and you froze. Recovery: just be honest. "Sorry, first time, what would you recommend?" She'll guide you. Most women appreciate a punter who admits they don't know rather than performing.

You bought too much by accident. You said yes to everything she offered. Now you've spent more than you intended. Recovery: pay what was agreed. Don't try to back out mid-service. The lesson is for next time. Be more selective.

She suggested an extra you didn't want. "Would you like to add a Spanish finish?" and you don't want one. Recovery: "No thanks, the regular finish is fine." Clean decline, no need to explain.

You changed your mind about an extra you agreed to. Mid-session, you've decided you don't want what you agreed to. Recovery: tell her now, not at the end. "Actually I'd like to skip the body slide, just the regular finish please." She'll adapt; you'll get a partial refund (or no refund if the new arrangement uses the same time).

You missed her cue. She asked, you didn't respond, the moment passed. Recovery: bring it back. "Sorry, missed what you said earlier, what were the options?" She'll re-offer. No drama.

A note on courage

The thing first-timers are actually anxious about isn't the words. It's the moment of asking. The vulnerability of articulating what you want.

Two things that help:

This is her job. She's heard every version of every request. There's nothing you could ask that would shock her. The thing you're nervous about saying is something she heard ten times this week.

Plain English isn't blunt. A direct request isn't rude, it's clear. She'd rather you ask directly than dance around it for five minutes hoping she'll guess.

The first time you do this, it's hard. The third time, it's automatic. Most regulars don't think about it at all anymore.

What to read next

For the broader etiquette: etiquette and tipping.

For the do's and don'ts: do's and don'ts at a massage parlour.

For tipping: how much to tip a sensual massage provider.

For first-time visitors: first-timer's guide.

For payment patterns: cash, card, or EFTPOS.

Frequently asked questions

Quick answers

Frequently asked questions

When should I bring up extras?

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Wait for her to ask. She'll signal when it's time, usually when you've been flipped onto your back and she's working on your front. The phrase varies: 'What are you in the mood for?', 'Anything else you want?', 'What kind of session would you like?' That's the cue. Don't pre-empt it.

What words do I use?

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Plain English in short sentences. 'I'd like to add a body slide' or 'I'd like a hand finish' or 'What's your full service rate?' is enough. You don't need slang, you don't need to dress it up, you don't need to be charming. Direct and clear is the right register.

What if she says no?

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Accept it cleanly. Don't ask why. Don't suggest you'd pay more. Don't sulk. The session continues with what was agreed. Some women don't offer FS, some don't offer body slide on a particular day, some don't offer any extras to first-timers they don't know. Move on.

Should I negotiate the price?

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No. Whatever she quotes is her price. You can decline, but you don't haggle. Trying to bargain her down is the single biggest tell of an inexperienced punter and the fastest way to kill the dynamic. Either accept the price or politely decline that extra.

What if I want to add something mid-session that I didn't agree at the start?

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Possible but slightly awkward. Wait for a natural pause, ask quietly, agree the price. She may or may not accommodate, depends on time remaining, what's been agreed, and her own preferences. 'Could we add a body slide if there's time?' is a reasonable question. 'I changed my mind, I want full service now' may not work.